Could being well-balanced in all areas of your life be a key to finding the loving relationship you desire?
Ask yourself: Is my life upside-down and out of balance? How is that affecting my current relationships or my pursuit of being in the loving relationship of my dreams? What would it look like if I had balance spiritually, emotionally, physically, mentally, and socially? What would I give to have balance in my life? Do not just think about these questions, journal everything that comes to mind. This will be the beginning step towards your desired results.
Children who do not experience a balance in these five key areas are the ones who have the most struggles in life. If this is true for children, it is likely very true for adults as well.
BRIEF EXPLANATION OF EACH AREA:
Spiritually - This could be your involvement and attendance at church - certainly a way to develop and nurture your spiritual life. Your relationship with God or a higher power may be a big part of your spirituality. Daily, prayer, mediation, readings, and experiences with nature are ingredients to being spiritually sound. This is whatever brings you peace, serenity, joy, fulfillment and love.
Emotionally - This could be as intense as attending therapy or support groups, depending on your level of need. Learning how to set boundaries could bring emotional stability. Another example could be learning how to share and express your feelings and needs. Developing relationships with people who accept you for who you are, support you, and are there for you through the good times and the tears, is another way to fill this area. And finally, your relationship with yourself is part of being okay emotionally.
Physically - This is for sure, exercise, sleep, healthy eating, doctor and dental care, taking vitamins, quitting unhealthy habits, etc. This can also include haircuts, color, manicures, pedicures, massages, etc. Taking care of health and beauty on a regular basis is what this leg of balance means.
Mentally - This can be reading, researching, and maybe taking classes. Basically, this includes any new learning experiences that challenges you, brings you a sense of accomplishment, and makes you want to know more about everything you already know.
Socially - This is entertaining relationships with others - hanging out with family and friends, doing fun things, developing new friendships or cultivating old ones.
If you do not strive for balance in these areas you may experience stress and nonfulfillment. More importantly you will attract other out of whack people to date or marry. Most importantly you will not be appealing to the right singles.
Take some time to consider how you would answer the following Action Step questions:
A. Rate each area with a percentage of how much time and energy you think you spend on each one of the key areas weekly, with 100% being the total of all five:
Spiritual % ___________________
Emotional % __________________
Physical % ___________________
Social % _____________________
Mental % ____________________
B. For any area that you score seems low, list two things that you can start doing today to bring that percentage in balance with the other areas, i.e. if Physical is lacking in relation to the other areas, you could list an exercise you could do each day and a vitamin supplement you could start taking:
Spiritual
1. ____________________
2. ____________________
Emotional
1. ____________________
2. ____________________
Physical
1. ____________________
2. ____________________
Social
1. ____________________
2. ____________________
Mental
1. ____________________
2. ____________________
The key to filling this is out is to start small and with things that you can realistic accomplish.
Post comments if you want to be held accountable for taking some of the things you list.
