“Finding the Right One” v. “Being the Right One”

I invite you to ask yourself: Am I a whole and satisfied person who would add positively to a relationship and compliment the other person? What do I bring to the table in relationships? What do I have to offer in a relationship? Do I bring baggage or assets? I encourage you to not only think about these questions, but to journal everything that comes to mind. If you desire to be in a healthy, happy relationship with a significant other, this will be the beginning step towards that result.

I often explain in presentations I do for singles groups the following: “I use to bring to each relationship what I call my “U-Haul truck” of baggage. Now, having eliminated that load of things from my past, I bring more of my terrific qualities to each relationship. The other person is blessed, not cursed, because I am a good listener, have a positive attitude, and so on.”

Is your baggage stinking up your relationships?

Let’s say you meet Mr. or Ms. Perfect Forever and they really have their stuff together. You see that they have a ton to bring to the table as far as positive, life enriching attributes. Your life will be changed immensely for the better, because they only bring assets to add to your life and not liabilities to drag you down. This Mr. or Ms. Wonderful has really worked on being the right person; a whole, complete and satisfied person. He or she is ready for a long term, healthy relationship. Let’s say you two start dating and things seem to be going pretty well, but as the days, weeks and months go by, your baggage starts showing up and creating disagreements and problems between the two of you. You, or actually probably the other person, discover that you are the one who has the liabilities that start bringing the other person down. What do you think will happen? They will likely run for the hills.

On the other hand, let’s say you meet Mr. or Ms. Perfect Forever and you have defined who you are. You have improved, grown and cleared out useless stuff. You have improved the areas you want to better in. You are a more whole, complete and satisfied person. That other someone will be absolutely lucky and blessed to have you in their life. Now when you start dating this special someone, things seem to be going pretty well, and as the days, weeks and months go by, you two grow closer and fonder of each other. The relationship progresses in a healthy, happy manner. What do you think will happen? You could be together forever!

Out of the two above scenarios, which is the ideal situation you wish to happen to you? If your choice is to the second one, here are some action steps that will help you move forward in that direction:

I encourage you to make the following two lists:

One - list all the fabulous, amazing, and terrific qualities and characteristics you have. If you have trouble with this ask your family and friends to tell you the great things they see in you. You should have at least 50 things on this list.

Two - list the top five areas in your life you would like to improve. Do you want to lose weight, become financially stable, be more patient and tolerant, or have a better relationship with your children or parents? Again, if you need assistance those closest to you will be able to identify things you may not. This list should only have, at the most, five things to begin with. As you improve in those areas and cross off the things you change then and only then can you add more to this list.

Further action on each list that would be useful to take:

For list one – keep adding to it as you discover additional things you love about yourself. These are things that would positively impact another person’s life because you are that way.

For list two – for each item you would like to improve on, research and determine one step you could take towards that change. Take one area a month and do at least that first step if not more.

Until next time…..

Happy Dating,


Ronda Welsh, Your Dating Strategist
Helping singles remove the doubt from dating!

www.resolveittogether.com
ronda@resolveittogether.com
316-409-4431

P.S. I am in no way inferring that you have to be perfect or that you can expect the other person to be perfect, since we all know there is no such thing as a perfect person. What I am saying is there is always room for improvement and your odds of being successful in a relationship are counting on you to seek out that improvement.

Get the Girl Tonight...

Gentlemen,

We’ve all been stopped short when it comes to getting a date with an attractive woman.

If you’ve ever seen a girl on the street and you’ve thought, “Man I’d really like to talk to her,” or at a restaurant or at a club or something like that but yet you didn’t follow through, you didn’t go up and ask her out, you didn’t go up and get a phone number from her…

If you’ve ever found yourself stopped short when it comes to dating the attractive woman that you would like to date I would like to help you out. And, if you’ve ever had the courage to go up and ask out an attractive woman and it just didn’t work out I’d like to help you as well.

See, when it comes to dating women there is a right way and a wrong way to go about having the kind of success that you’re looking for and I’d like to personally help you become the kind of man that can naturally and easily approach extremely attractive woman, carry on fun conversations with them, easily get their phone numbers, feel very comfortable asking them out on dates and ultimately having the kind of relationship with women that you really want.

In order to help you out I’ve decided to have a personal one-on-one session with as many of my readers and subscribers that I can over the next couple of weeks.

I probably won’t be able to work with everybody but the sooner you request this session the more likely you are to be able to get on my schedule. This coaching session is called the "Confidence with Women Coaching Session".

During the "Confidence with Women Coaching Session" we will work together to…

=> Create a crystal clear vision for the kind of woman that you’d like to have in your life and the kind of relationship you’d like to have with her.

=> We’ll uncover hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your success with woman and dating.

=> You’ll leave the session renewed, reenergized and inspired to take consistent action in your dating and love life so that you can finally have the success with woman that you’ve always wanted.









To get your "Confidence with Women Coaching Session" today, simply click reply to this email and answer the following questions:

1. How long have you been single?

2. On a scale of zero to 10 how important is it for you to get this area of your life called relationship handled once and for all?

3. What do you see as your biggest challenges with women and dating?

4. What was your greatest relationship success to date?

Email your answers now to ronda@resolveittogether.com and be sure to include your name and phone number so that someone from our office can give you a call and get you scheduled for this special 30 minute "Confidence with Women Coaching Session" today.

Until next time...

Happy Dating,


Ronda Welsh, Your Dating Strategist
Helping singles remove the doubt from dating!

www.resolveittogether.com
ronda@resolveittogether.com
316-409-4431

PS: The sooner you send us your answers, the more likely you are to get a session. Email us now: ronda@resolveittogether.com

Find Mr. Right Today...

Ladies,

If you’d like to find Mr. Right today and you’d like to have that experience of your Prince Charming, whatever that may be for you -- tall dark and handsome, powerful, attractive, sexy, whatever kind of man you would really love in your heart of hearts to have in your life and to be able to enjoy the kind of relationship that you’re looking for where you go out to movies and go on vacations together and go out to dinner with your couple friends and all those great couple experiences…

Maybe you’ll even want to get married and have a family...

It all starts with finding the right guy, finding your Mr. Right and I’d like to help you do that.

For a limited time I am offering a special "Find Mr. Right Coaching Session" for ZERO COST. During this special 1-on-1 coaching session we’ll work together to…

=> Create a crystal clear vision for the kind of man that you’d like to attract and the kind of relationship that you’d like to have

=> We’ll uncover hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your success with men and dating

=> You’ll leave the session renewed, reenergized and inspired to find and keep a treat man once and for all

To claim your special "Find Mr. Right Coaching Session" today, simply email your answers to these questions to ronda@resolveittogether.com:

1. How long have you been single?

2. On a scale of zero to 10 how important is it for you to get in to a relationship
now?

3. What do you see as your biggest relationship challenges?

4. What would you most like help with when it comes to men and dating?

Be sure to include your name, phone number and email address so someone from our office can get back to you within the next 24 to 48 hours to schedule your one-on-one "Find Mr. Right Coaching Session."

Email your reply now to claim your session today: ronda@resolveittogether.com

Until next time...

Happy Dating,


Ronda Welsh, Your Dating Strategist
Helping singles remove the doubt from dating!

www.resolveittogether.com
ronda@resolveittogether.com
316-409-4431

P.S. I can’t wait to hear how great things are for you
once you’ve got that great man in your life!

Zip My Zipper and Tie My Tie

In addition to having someone to zip you zipper ladies or tie your tie gentlemen, here are some other top reasons your life could be better with someone special or even a spouse to share it with:

To have....
1. an anchor in the storms of life.

2. companionship through the daily routine of life.

3. a safety net to catch you when you fall.

4. a confidant = someone to tell all the things to that you couldn't, shouldn't or wouldn't tell others.

5. someone to share all levels of intimacy with.

6. someone to pray for or who can pray for you when you cannot.

7. someone to share major life decisions with.

8. someone who shares your day-to-day responsibilities of life.

9. someone to mirror your growth and growth opportunities to you.

10. someone to balance you out, in other words who compliments your strengths and weaknesses.

11. financial support.

12. emotional support.

13. mental support.

14. someone to care for you when you are sick or someone you can care for when they are sick.

15. a history and memories you create together.

16. someone to grow old with.

17. someone beside you so you do not have to die alone.

18. someone to miss and someone who will miss you.

19. someone you can laugh with.

20. someone to share common interests with.

21. someone to help you reach your goals and to share common goals with.

22. someone to cry with.

23. someone to comfort you and someone you can comfort.

24. someone who will be concerned about you.

25. someone to share inside jokes with.

26. someone to cherish and someone who cherishes you.

27. someone to appreciate and who appreciates you.

28. someone that knows you better than anyone else.

29. someone to Love

30. someone who Loves you.

I challenge you to post one or two things that you consider to be pros, positives or blessings to being in a relationship or being married.

Your Dating Strategist,

Ronda Welsh

Removing your Doubt from Dating

P.S. There are also many things like someone to take you to the airport, someone to lift heavy things for you, someone to cook for you, etc.

Not Bathing for Three Days

In order to be ready for a healthy relationship and/or marriage, one of the first steps is being fully satisfied right where you are with your singleness.

The following is a list of 30 positives to being single:

1. Not having to worry about offending someone if you do not bathe for three days.
2. Having possession and full use of the remote control.
3. Not having to ask or discuss purchases with anyone.
4. Having the entire bed to yourself.
5. Getting to set your own bed time and rising time.
6. Having control of the temperature in your home and/or car.
7. Not upsetting anyone if you fall asleep reading, with the TV on or with a light on.
8. Having total freedom to come and goes as you please.
9. Toilet lid up or down...whichever you prefer.....ALWAYS!
10. Not having anyone but yourself to pick up after.
11. Your money is your money.
12. Leaving dirty clothes on the floor or dirty dishes in the sink for as long as you wish.
13. Not having to shave your legs (women) or face (men).
14. Getting to hang out with friends and family as much or as little as you want.
15. Getting to crash where ever you want, on the sofa, at a friends, etc.
16. Not having to worry if you work too much or get home too late.
17. Getting to give as much as you want.
18. Not having to consider another person's feelings.
19. Getting to use the last of something without anyone complaining.
20. Taking risks without another person's fears and opinions being projected on you.
21. Getting to spoil your children and grandchildren, etc.
22. Being able to celebrate and decorate for holidays or NOT.
23. Your quiet time, prayer time, and/or meditation time is truly yours.
24. Being able to keep your house and/or car as clean or dirty as you want.
25. The toilet paper roll is always turned the way you like it.
26. No one feels abandoned if you are addicted to golf or fishing or something else.
27. You can cook or eat out as little or as much as you want.
28. Not being affected by anther person's mood.
29. Tax advantages are available to you.
30. Digging into the butter as you please, leaving it smooth or pitted!

I challenge you to post one or two additional things that you consider to be pros, positives or blessings about being single.

Coming soon, a blog of positives about being in a relationship or married.